Okay enough with the potty mouth

I know the last thing you want to hear about is more potty issues. But hey this is my life right now. Joshua needs to stop having accidents for my own insanity. I can deal with the meltdowns, the biting, the refusing to eat dinner or any resemblance of a healthy meal.

No Joshua, gummy bears are not a power food.

BUT I can NOT deal with potty issues. I hate potty training. I've been working with his resource teacher, OT, and teacher at school we are trying to combat the potty issues. They have created a log sheat so I have detailed information when he does have an accident other than just a bag of clothes sent home. They also have a schedule of when he is going to be told to go to the restroom. Great. However, he has refused to go when they tell him to and can not force him to the restroom. The other day they were telling him he needed to go try to use the potty and he sat in his chair refusing and then he wet his pants. *BANGING HEAD AGAINST WAll*

At home he has accidents. I kind of threw my hands up in the air last night after yet another accident. I told Joshua "I don't know what to do, I don't know why you are having accidents, what can I do to help you stop having accidents"

These were more rhetorical questions, not expecting an answer but yet he gives me one.

Let me stop going to school and I won't have accidents. At that point I just had to walk away.

A few minutes later I went back to the bathroom. He was taking a bath and I sat down to talk to him. I explained how the bladder works and how you get that sensation when you have to go and does he get that and he was like yeah. Then I asked him why don't you go to the bathroom. He says I don't want to stop or I'm focused on something. (paraphrased)

I then ask well doesn't it feel uncomfortable to sit in wet pants?

His answer was no. I reworded the question 100 different ways to make sure he understood what uncomfortable meant and well he does. He says he likes sitting in wet pants and it is comfortable.

All I can say now is HELP. I don't know how to work with this. Does anyone out there understand? Any Advice? Any light at the end of the tunnel?